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Yesterday, Black Connecticut Congresswoman Jahana Hayes’ virtual town hall was Zoom bombed by trolls using racist slurs. As I watched the replay, in spite of the vitriolic attack, Congresswoman Hayes remained confident, focused, and steady. When asked about the incident afterwards, she discussed how, although the slurs were directed toward her, she immediately checked in on everyone else to see if they were okay. Upon reflection, however, she disclosed that while her instinct was to be ‘strong’ and emotionally push through the all too familiar occurrence, she in fact, was not okay. She stated: “It’s exhausting to always take the…


“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful; I know that full well.”

MY MASTERPIECE

Dear daughter, come out of hiding! for you are Dark and comely. Your hand crafted sun-kissed skin bears no sin. Freshly dipped with intention, I’ve made no mention of mistaken identity. Whether black as a kettle, or a deep brown Hershey’s kiss, you are a radiant reflection of Thee. For I, your God, created the light and the darkness — and neither is more kin to me.

“Whether black as a kettle, or a deep brown Hershey’s kiss, you…


Okay, I admit it. The moment I watched ‘The Purge’, I didn’t completely dismiss the concept altogether. I actual loved it. For those who are not familiar with the film, it is basically an annual national holiday in which all crime, including murder, becomes legal for a 12-hour period (Wikipedia.org). Basically, “The Purge” is a day where people get to release all of their negative suppressed emotions in a way that, just for that moment, is socially acceptable (Freud would’ve had a field day with this!) …


My journey towards healing from racial trauma.

Let me start off addressing two important facts about me: 1) I am a Black woman married to a White man. And 2) I am a Christian. Why does this matter in relation to this post?

First, I’ve experienced much backlash from both White and Black people when I dare speak about racial issues and trauma while being married to a White man.

White folk (In my Karen voice):

“I mean, your husband is White. Isn’t that kinda racist against him?”

Black Folk:

“How she gone’ talk about racism and she’s married to…


WHY SHOULD I FEAR IN THE DAYS OF ADVERSITY WHEN THE INIQUITY OF MY FOES SURROUNDS ME?

THEY BOAST AND TOAST IN THE ABUNDANCE OF THEIR RICHES -DITCHES THEY DIG DEEP, DEEPER AND DEEPER, CARELESS OF THE REPERCUSSIONS. DISCUSSIONS CAMOUFLAGED BY A HALLELUJAH! AND A THANK YOU GOD!

AWARDS AND DEGREES ACHIEVED PLEASES THE MASSES, PASSES ALL WORLDY INSPECTION…ILLUSIONS OF PERFECTION…

THOUGH WHILE HE LIVED, HE COUNTED HIMSELF BLESSED, AND MEN PRAISED HIM WHEN HE PROSPERED. BUT AFTER HE DIED, HE STOOD NAKED AND ASHAMED-EMPTY HANDED BEFORE HIS FATHER…NOTHING TO OFFER…

SO WHY SHOULD I FEAR IN THE DAYS…


“I Am Very Dark, But Lovely, O Daughters Of Jerusalem, Like The Tents Of Kedar, Like The Curtains Of Solomon.” (Song Of Solomon 1:5 ESV)

Pic from ’Dark Girls 2’

“Blackie” “Dirty toothpick” “Dark Vader.” These were just a few of the names that I was called growing up. Naturally, I began asking myself why my skin tone seemed to be a constant topic of ridicule, and why I was being compared unfavorably to my lighter skin counterparts.

It was my people who were calling me these names, after all. It was my people who were posing questions such as, “Why aren’t you pretty and…

Mahogany Dichotomy

Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), College Professor, Podcast co-host of becomingwellpodcast.org, Speaker, and Blogger.

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